Book description
American society is in the midst of a crisis, an epidemic of violence,
secrets and shame. The victims reside in every town, on every street.
Finding it easier to remain in denial than to confront this reality, the
public minimizes the emotional aftermath of sexual abuse of children and
provides few programs to help heal those afflicted. Recounting the
author's journey through a minefield based on his own denial, Boys Don't
Tell takes a subjective look back at a life distorted by the effects of
child sexual abuse and offers insight as to why victims find it so
difficult to “just get over it and move on.” Through the eyes and
emotions of the author, it reveals his abuse as a teenager by a trusted
minister and mentor, then recounts years of therapy, a formal complaint
to The Church, and a lawsuit settled in mediation. Boys Don't Tell
covers the nature of addictions, their impact, and the difficulty and
reward in defeating them. Excruciatingly honest, Boys Don't Tell creates
an openness that can facilitate healing in others. Boys Don't Tell gives
voice to an estimated 20 million male survivors, and offers loved ones,
professionals, church and organizational leaders the opportunity to
understand the impact of child sexual abuse. As one reader put it, “You
have been through so much, conquered so much, lost so much, and still
have far to go. I was moved to tears. At times I felt I was
eavesdropping. This is a tragic story filled with hope for justice and
healing.”